Self-differentiated Leadership

A differentiated leader does not succumb to the temptation of getting involved in the high a low tides of workplace drama, but instead acts as a lighthouse: steady, unwavering, and guiding others to avoid getting dashed against the rocks.  I think many of us can identify with the concept of the chronically anxious organization.  I think every school and district I’ve worked with fits the description.  Self-differentiated leaders have often been present in these organizations, but too often the sabotage got the better of them.  I’m afraid I fall into this category - I strive to be a differentiated leader, but as soon as there is pushback I feel defeated and retreat.  It was valuable to hear that sabotage means that the leader is doing the right thing!  I will need to work on not taking the sabotage personally and keeping my eyes on the goals I have set for myself and my organization. 
Having a strategy to deal with conversations involving strong emotions, high stakes, and differing opinions is a must!  Too often we start these conversations without the right mindset or preparation,  the emotions take over, and nothing gets resolved or the problem becomes worse.  For my innovation plan to succeed it will be imperative for me to have a conversation with the other 4-H club leaders to discuss potential hurdles to implementing PBL in the clubs, and perhaps also with my curriculum coach about reorganizing our assessment system to make it more PBL friendly.  Having these crucial conversations is the priority for my innovation plan to get off the ground